{"id":7443,"date":"2021-07-08T15:21:55","date_gmt":"2021-07-08T14:21:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/studyinireland.ie\/?p=7443"},"modified":"2021-07-08T15:22:50","modified_gmt":"2021-07-08T14:22:50","slug":"kibar-anlasmazlik","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/studyinireland.ie\/tr\/polite-disagreement\/","title":{"rendered":"Kibar Anla\u015fmazl\u0131k"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Hepimiz ayn\u0131 fikirde olmama hakk\u0131na sahibiz, ancak bunu kibarca yapmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fal\u0131m! Kibarca anla\u015fmazl\u0131k medeni bir yoldur.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

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Pek de kibar olmayan bir anla\u015fmazl\u0131k \u00f6rne\u011fi<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Kibar anla\u015fmazl\u0131k sanat\u0131<\/h2>\n

Herkesin farkl\u0131 bir g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fc vard\u0131r ve hakl\u0131 olarak da \u00f6yledir - Oscar Wilde'\u0131n dedi\u011fi gibi, 'Ne zaman insanlar benimle ayn\u0131 fikirde olsa, hep yan\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u00fcm<\/em>'. Ve ger\u00e7ekten de, e\u011fer herkes her zaman birbiriyle ayn\u0131 fikirde olsayd\u0131, bu ya hepimizin boynundan yukar\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6l\u00fc oldu\u011funun ya da totaliter bir rejimde ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n bir i\u015fareti olurdu. Ancak anla\u015fmazl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ifade etmek ba\u015fl\u0131 ba\u015f\u0131na k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir sanat olabilir.<\/p>\n

Farkl\u0131 k\u00fclt\u00fcrlerin konu\u015furken anla\u015fmazl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ifade etme bi\u00e7imleri farkl\u0131d\u0131r - baz\u0131lar\u0131 di\u011ferlerinden daha do\u011frudan veya sert olabilir. Bir dilde zarars\u0131z bir fikir ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnen bir \u015fey, di\u011ferinde kaba bir bozulma olarak kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za \u00e7\u0131kabilir, farkl\u0131 bir gelenekte yeti\u015fmi\u015f birine \u00e7ok a\u00e7\u0131k s\u00f6zl\u00fc ve neredeyse a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lay\u0131c\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcnebilir.<\/p>\n

\u0130rlanda k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcnde yeti\u015fmi\u015f insanlar bazen fikirlerini ifade etmekten ka\u00e7\u0131nabilirler - darbeyi yumu\u015fatman\u0131n ve anla\u015fmazl\u0131k hap\u0131n\u0131 tatland\u0131rman\u0131n \u00e7e\u015fitli yollar\u0131 vard\u0131r. Birinin s\u00f6ylediklerine \u00e7ok ani veya kaba olmadan da kat\u0131lmamak m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr. A\u015fa\u011f\u0131da, \"Tamamen yan\u0131l\u0131yorsun, ayn\u0131 fikirde de\u011filim!\" ya da \"Benim fikrime kat\u0131lmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n i\u00e7in aptals\u0131n!\" \u015feklinde ba\u011f\u0131rmak yerine tercih edilebilecek baz\u0131 ifadeler yer almaktad\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Kibarca anla\u015fmazl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ifade etme yollar\u0131<\/h3>\n

Ger\u00e7ekten, \u00f6yle mi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorsun?<\/strong> - Bu, di\u011fer ki\u015finin g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fcne ilgi duyuldu\u011funu g\u00f6sterirken, ki\u015finin bu g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda \u015fa\u015f\u0131rabilece\u011fini de ima eder.<\/p>\n

Bu do\u011fru de\u011fil.<\/strong> - Ki\u015fiye sald\u0131rmadan, ifadenin ge\u00e7erlili\u011fini veya do\u011frulu\u011funu nazik\u00e7e tart\u0131\u015fmakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Oh, bilmiyorum.<\/strong> - Ki\u015fi \u015f\u00fcphe tohumlar\u0131n\u0131 ekerken kendi cehaletini itiraf etmektedir.<\/p>\n

Bundan emin de\u011filim.<\/strong>. - Yine ki\u015fi kendi cehaletine vurgu yapmakta ve konuyu belirsiz b\u0131rakmaktad\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Belki de hakl\u0131s\u0131n, ama...<\/strong> - Yine, ki\u015fi konuyu \u015f\u00fcpheye a\u00e7\u0131k b\u0131rakmakta ve 'ama' ile ba\u015fka bir bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131na kap\u0131 a\u00e7maktad\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Buna ger\u00e7ekten inanamazs\u0131n.<\/strong> - Ki\u015fi, aktif olarak sald\u0131r\u0131ya ge\u00e7meden, ki\u015finin inanc\u0131na duydu\u011fu ku\u015fkuyu ifade eder.<\/p>\n

Ne demek istedi\u011fini anl\u0131yorum ama \u00f6te yandan.<\/strong> - Biri, di\u011fer ki\u015finin ge\u00e7erli bir noktaya de\u011findi\u011fini, ancak konunun dikkate alabilecekleri ba\u015fka bir taraf\u0131 oldu\u011funu kabul eder.<\/p>\n

Yok art\u0131k!<\/strong> - Bir ifadeye duyulan ku\u015fkuyu, tonu hafif tutarak biraz komik bir \u015fekilde ifade etmenin bir ba\u015fka yolu.<\/p>\n

Korkar\u0131m bu konuda yan\u0131l\u0131yorsunuz.<\/strong> - Birincisi, kibarca di\u011fer ki\u015finin nerede yan\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 belirtmektir - \"Korkar\u0131m ki...\" ifadesinin de g\u00f6sterdi\u011fi gibi, bunu biraz isteksizce yap\u0131yorsunuz.<\/p>\n

Bu ve di\u011fer ifadeleri kullanarak, di\u011fer insanlar\u0131n fikirlerine kar\u015f\u0131 kibarca ve k\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 olmadan kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kabilirsiniz. Kibarca kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kmak baz\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131lardan iyi ve medeni bir sohbetin \u00f6z\u00fcd\u00fcr. Bu y\u00fczden bir dahaki sefere tart\u0131\u015fmaya girdi\u011finizde yukar\u0131daki ifadelerden baz\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 kullan\u0131n! \u015eimdi konu\u015fmaya ba\u015flay\u0131n!<\/p>\n\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Hepimiz ayn\u0131 fikirde olmama hakk\u0131na sahibiz, ancak bunu kibarca yapmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fal\u0131m! Kibarca anla\u015fmazl\u0131k medeni bir yoldur. Pek de kibar olmayan bir anla\u015fmazl\u0131k \u00f6rne\u011fi Kibar anla\u015fmazl\u0131k sanat\u0131 ...","protected":false},"author":10,"featured_media":7593,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_seopress_titles_title":"ISI Dublin - English Language School - Polite Disagreement","_seopress_titles_desc":"We're all entitled to disagree, but let's try and do so politely! Polite disagreement is the civilised way to go.","_seopress_robots_index":"","_seopress_robots_follow":"","_seopress_robots_imageindex":"","_seopress_robots_snippet":"","_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"none","_seopress_robots_breadcrumbs":"","_seopress_robots_freeze_modified_date":"","_seopress_robots_custom_modified_date":"","_seopress_robots_canonical":"","_seopress_social_fb_title":"","_seopress_social_fb_desc":"","_seopress_social_fb_img":"","_seopress_social_fb_img_attachment_id":0,"_seopress_social_fb_img_width":0,"_seopress_social_fb_img_height":0,"_seopress_social_twitter_title":"","_seopress_social_twitter_desc":"","_seopress_social_twitter_img":"","_seopress_social_twitter_img_attachment_id":0,"_seopress_social_twitter_img_width":0,"_seopress_social_twitter_img_height":0,"_seopress_redirections_value":"","_seopress_redirections_enabled":"","_seopress_redirections_enabled_regex":"","_seopress_redirections_logged_status":"","_seopress_redirections_param":"","_seopress_redirections_type":301,"_seopress_analysis_target_kw":"Polite disagreement,ISI,English,conversation","_seopress_news_disabled":"","_seopress_video_disabled":"","_seopress_video":[],"_seopress_pro_schemas_manual":[],"_seopress_pro_rich_snippets_disable_all":"","_seopress_pro_rich_snippets_disable":[],"_seopress_pro_schemas":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[72,194,71],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-7443","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-academic","category-english-tips","category-isi-dublin-blog"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/studyinireland.ie\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7443","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/studyinireland.ie\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/studyinireland.ie\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/studyinireland.ie\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/10"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/studyinireland.ie\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7443"}],"version-history":[{"count":10,"href":"https:\/\/studyinireland.ie\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7443\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":7596,"href":"https:\/\/studyinireland.ie\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7443\/revisions\/7596"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/studyinireland.ie\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/7593"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/studyinireland.ie\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7443"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/studyinireland.ie\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7443"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/studyinireland.ie\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7443"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}